October 17, 1985 ~ May 12, 2021

Born in: Stony Brook, NY
Resided in: Smithtown, NY


Visitation: May 18, 2021 2:00 - 4:00 pm

Branch Funeral Home Smithtown
190 E. Main St.

Second Visitation: May 18, 2021 7:00 - 9:00 pm

Branch Funeral Home Smithtown
190 E. Main St.

Mass: May 19, 2021 9:45 am

St. Patrick's R C Church Smithtown
280 E Main St

Private- Cremation:

Mt. Pleasant Cemetery & Crematory
43 Main St.

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  1. I met Gary because I was playing rock lobster by the b52s and he approved, we bonded over our love of cats and since then I had the opportunity to see his kindness and warmth touch everyone who was lucky enough to know him.

  2. candleI can not tell you how deeply saddened I am by the death of my friend Gary. He was such a good friend. Such a sweet person. That is how he will be remembered. My sincerest condolences to his family at this time.

  3. My condolences to all the hearts Gary has touched, which were many. I’m going to miss his sweet crooked smile, and his love of my adopted pandemic cat on Facebook- Asking how she’s doing whenever I see him at Katie’s.

  4. With deepest sympathy as you remember Gary. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Sending you all of our love from Florida.

  5. No words can express my deepest sympathy on Cousin Gary’s sudden passing. He will always be in our hearts and prayers. May he rest in peace.

  6. I’ve been friends with Gary for many years now. He was my favorite Sunday night friend at Katie’s. It was there we bonded for years to come. Maybe kayak trips, camping in blydenburg, fire pits and boat rides. I can’t imagine not laughing and being goofy with him anymore. He was always a great friend to me and always listened to my stories. Sending love and healing light to all family and friends.

  7. For the short time I had with Gary, he filled my heart with complete joy. The bar never felt complete without his presence. He never failed to make anyone in his life smile. Gary Bates will never be forgotten. I’m struggling to find the words to describe my feelings right now. I’m just thankful for the time I had and wish it hadn’t ended so soon. My heart goes out to his friends and family.

  8. candleI’m still having a hard time believing it. Gary was loved by soo many! He touch the hearts of everyone he met. We miss him so much! Too soon. I’m so grateful to have had Gary in my life!

  9. candleI am very sad to hear about the passing of my dear friend Gary. He was a sweet and gentle soul that touched so many lives. We would sit and talk for hours about music, or about nothing in particular. During the years when I lived in Florida, Gary always made it a point to come up to the bar and say hi when I was home visiting. He brought a smile to my face so many times when I was sad or upset and his friendship will be missed eternally. My thoughts and prayers are with his family and all that loved him at this difficult time.

  10. To my childhood friend Gary,
    I miss you so much bro . From the sandbox days playing outside on the corner of Harcourt and Iona to being my right hand man on the 4th of July!! Thank you so much for always being there when I needed help with some plumbing or just a friend to talk too. I can go on and on with stories from our childhood like playing goldeneye on n64 for weeks straight, taking me out on the boat , talking electrical work, the campouts, the swimming pool games when little, our wrestling matches in the dead end and just being a true friend. More like family to me. My deepest condolences and prayers to the Bates family. With all our Love The Beatty Family

  11. candleI’ve known Gary since middle school and he was always the light of the party anytime I was down or depressed he always told me don’t worry about it that there was so much more to life and he got me out of a lot of dark days and I’ll forever be grateful for that rest in peace Gary you were one of a kind and you will truly be missed by many yeah we didn’t hang out the last 10 or 12 years but you will always be a friend in my book condolences to the family

  12. Gary was a sweetheart, and was so kind to everyone. Had the best taste in music and was a friend to all. The world will not be the same without him, gone way too soon. God bless all his friends and family, you are in my prayers at this dark time. 🌹

  13. I can’t believe it, we just talked. You’ll forever be in my heart. You are a wonderful guy and I will always hold our times and conversations tight to my heart ❤️ you were my first friend when I moved to LI. I’ll miss you so. Forever fly high my friend….RIP buddy

  14. candleMay God give your family the strength to recover from this terrible loss 🙏 my deepest Sympathies

  15. My heart is breaking. I can’t begin to imagine your sorrow. He has gone way to soon. I pray he soars with the angels.❤️

  16. There are no words what a beautiful smile and handsome young man.my deepest condolences to you and your family.

  17. This is not the end of life,
    This is the beginning.
    We shall all meet again where no tears will be shed .

  18. My deepest condolences for the loss of your beautiful son. Sending you all love and prayers ❤️

  19. candleI didn’t have the pleasure of meeting Gary but his parents Jeannette and Gary are very nice people. I heard alot of Gary.

  20. I am extremely sorry and heartbroken over the loss of your Son and Brother Gary. He was such a kind and thoughtful person. He will be truly missed by all. May he RIP. Life is so unfair! Love, Hugs, and Prayers to you all. Maggie Oxoxox

  21. candleWe have no words for you except for we are so so sorry for the loss-of your son , Gary.Praying for your family

  22. candleThe joy Gary brought to so many lives will not be forgotten.
    Sending prayers and comforting hugs. I am so sorry for your loss. 💕

  23. The loss of Gary Jr. Is felt by many but no one knows how a mother and father feel. We have had too many to console. Our hearts go out to Jeanette and Gary. May God help you go on for those who love you and depend on you. May you and Brian and Valerie always keep Gary Jr. in your hearts and know that he will always be with you there.

  24. It’s been a year, and almost 10 for grandma. Feels like yesterday, Gar. Now that you are with grandma I know you are both at peace. Wish you were both here. Until we meet again.

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