Grace Koshy – also known as Ma, Didi, Grace Aunty, Kochamma, and of course ‘Dida’ to almost everyone – went to be with our Lord and was reunited with her mom, dad, siblings and her beloved husband whom she called ‘Achayan’ on August 20, 2020.

Grace was born in Kolkata, India to Usha and Issac Newton on December 15, 1927, where she grew up and eventually started a family. She was the oldest of eight siblings and served as a role model and mentor to each one of them. Grace was a fearlessly, independent woman who created her own path in life. In 1945, at the young age of 18, she enrolled in nursing school and eventually became an operating room nurse. In 1951, she met P J. Koshy, the brother of her nursing school roommate whom she later married in 1958. They raised two children John and Anne in Kolkata until moving to Buffalo, New York in 1983. Grace always flourished in the company of others and showered them with her unconditional love and generosity. With only two items in the fridge, she could create a buffet for her family and an atmosphere of joy and warmth. Grace was happiest when she was making sure everyone around her was comfortable and fed. Even if you told her you had eaten she would give you food – ‘just have a little’ – she would say. Along with her love for cooking and caring for others, she loved music, secretly watching golf, talking to people on the phone and writing cards. She could spend hours looking for just the right card – birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, retirement, new home – you name it – because it had to have just the ‘right words’. She would even write thank you cards for receiving a thank you card.

Everyone mattered to Grace and she made each of us feel very special. We were blessed to learn many valuable lessons from her; unconditional love for all, forgiveness, deep faith, generosity, kindness, compassion and ‘there is nothing that a cup of tea cannot solve!’ She embodied her name – and lived in grace.

Grace is survived by her son, John (Kathy); her daughter, Anne (Eugene); and five grandchildren, Anna, Leah, Alex, Sam, and Kathryn and countless other nieces, nephews, family members and friends whom she loved deeply and dearly.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in her memory to your favorite charity.
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Thank you,

Anne

 

Monday’s funeral service for Grace will be livestreamed, if you would like to join the chapel virtually please click the link below.

Services

Visitation: August 23, 2020 2:00 pm - August 23, 2020 4:00 pm

Branch Funeral Home Smithtown
190 E. Main St.
SMITHTOWN, NY 11787


Visitation: August 23, 2020 7:00 pm - August 23, 2020 9:00 pm

Branch Funeral Home Smithtown
190 E. Main St.
SMITHTOWN, NY 11787


Service: August 24, 2020 12:00 pm

Branch Funeral Home Smithtown
190 E. Main St.
SMITHTOWN, NY 11787


Interment: August 24, 2020 1:15 pm

Pinelawn Memorial Park
2030 Wellwood Avenue
FARMINGDALE, NY 11735


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  1. Her warm heart, quick smile, gentle soul, and soft hands will be missed. Such a lovely woman. Heaven has gained another angel. Rest in Peace Dida.

  2. If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord. Romans 14:8

    We will miss you Aunty.

  3. Dear Mrs. Koshy, may your dear soul rest in peace. I remember you very vividly from Union Chapel, Kolkata, India. My condolences to the entire family.

  4. Aunty you were always so loving and full of warmth…you will always be remembered…
    May You Rest In Peace Forever Aunty ❤️🙏

  5. We miss you a lot, Aunty.
    Your smile, humility, caring and love will be in our hearts for ever.
    Hoping that we will meet you again in heaven.
    Rest in peace and pray for us. Love you for ever.

  6. Blessed Dida, May your family see you through each other’s eyes! Your kind, tender and loving demeanor will always be remembered! Lauren loved your cooking! Our love, the Wozny and Zeman families

  7. candleGrace. Thank you for being the best mother- in – law my daughter could ever have had. You were more of a blessing than you ever knew. We will miss you

  8. candleDear Aunty, I remember your warm smiles and soft hugs when I was a little girl in Union Chapel. I always looked forward to seeing you on sundays. You will forever be in my heart.

  9. Molly, Bobby….May care and love of those around you provide comfort and peace to get you through the days ahead. Our most sincere condolences.
    Mrs. Koshy will be missed by all of us.

  10. candleThe sweetest kindness soul who always had a warm smile, open heart and words of wisdom. Thank you for all our talks and always knowing just the right thing to say. You are a beautiful person. Peace to you and your family.

  11. The kindest and sweetest soul who had the biggest heart and the warmest smile. Thank you for all of our talks and always having words of wisdom. Peace to you and to your family.

  12. Dearest Aunty, I will always remember the love that you showered on me and my family. You will be missed dearly.Drawing comfort knowing that those we love walk beside us everyday, unseen, unheard but always near.

  13. Dear Pisi,
    You were always like a halo of love, happiness and positivity in many’s life including me… An Angel.
    I will be ever grateful for all your inspirations and blessings.
    Love you Pisi ! You will always be in my heart !

    • candleWe have such fond memories of our childhood spent surrounded by the warmth of good friends. Uncle and Aunty koshy were right up there on the scale of love! Aunty Grace was so gentle and always so sweet to all of us. I also recall the fabulous treats she gave us whenever we visited them. John and Ann and family, my mother Mrs. Angelina Kessop from Union chapel Kolkata joins me in sending comforting hugs to you. Much love- anita ( kessop) brooks

  14. candleWe have such fond memories of our childhood spent surrounded by the warmth of good friends. Uncle and Aunty koshy were right up there on the scale of love! Aunty Grace was so gentle and always so sweet to all of us. I also recall the fabulous treats she gave us whenever we visited them. John and Ann and family, my mother Mrs. Angelina Kessop from Union chapel Kolkata joins me in sending comforting hugs to you. Much love- anita ( kessop) brooks

  15. candleShe was a blessing to everyone who got to know her. She will always be remembered for how she made us all feel.. so so special..We will miss you aunty!

  16. candleMay the light of Christ in whose glorious radiance
    Grace mashima shone always, continue to wrap all her loved ones in love, joy and peace. Our sincere condolences and prayers for her precious family.

  17. candleAnne, may you and your loved ones find comfort in eachother and the memories of your mother. I am truly sorry for your loss.

  18. My condolences to you Anne and your family. I am sorry for the loss of your mother Ms Grace. It was my pleasure to have known and cared for her. She is a blessing to everyone, she always has encouraging words to share, she was a happy and contented soul with a pleasant and humorous personality. Ms Grace will be missed. God bless you and your family

  19. Aunty was a lady who lived up to her name in the true sense of the term. I remember her to be very jovial with a smile on her face always. May your soul rest in peace. Deepest condolences to the family and may God give you all the strength to face this loss of such a beloved one

  20. Dear Aunty
    I have known you from my childhood. What can I say? Goodbye is so difficult for one you love. I remember your kindness and gentleness and generosity and warmth and laughter. I will miss you. You will live on in our memory. There you will always be with us with your laughter and warmth and love…..
    Your Tunku always

  21. Dear Bobby and Molly….
    Sorry to hear your loss…..was going back our Calcutta life… Weekend visits to your house…Aunty’s smiling face and her advices…and all the good times we had. Your Mom was such a wonderful woman,….a great mother, …a true friend….a honest and trustworthy…..a great adviser. May the good Lord comfort you all at this difficult times and may her soul Rest in Peace✝✝✝

  22. Aunty, you will always be remembered and greatly missed, one person I could call anytime after many months and you would remember everything like yesterday. I was hoping to see you this year but due to the world turning upside down, I missed it.
    You are with the angels now, and may your soul rest in eternal peace. My deepest condolences to the everyone at home, Bobby & Molly.

  23. Dear Gracy kochamma your smile and jokes we never forget.Memories never die.You are happy now since you are with almighty God and achayen

  24. candleAmmachie had that unconditional love for anybody she meet. She met my friend in NJ once and I know how close they both become. Whenever I talk with my friend, the first thing he asks is, How is NY Ammachie. We all will miss you. Love you lots… RIP.

  25. Dear Bobby, Molly and Family:

    We are so sorry to hear about the loss of our Loving Graceaunty. Aunty was a unique Angel, who will come to your dreams and guide you all from heaven🙏.

    Our heart is with you all in this time of sorrow.

    Sending Prayers to you and your family.
    🙏❤️🙏

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