Joan M. McLoughlin

My beautiful, beloved Mom~ I miss you so very much already.

My precious God Mommy, I have been so blessed to have had you in my life. I will forever keep you in my heart, I love you so, your God daughter, Pattie

Rest in Peace dear lady ❤️

To my Joanie ~
Well they say a mother teaches you everything you have to know. Except how to live without her. May I learn to accept your passing “…With the grace of a woman and not the grief of a child..”
Because that’s how you did things, Mom~ with grace.
From your Joanie

Mom~ I talk to you every night and ask you for the wisdom that comes from living 98 years on earth. I am so happy for you that you are at rest and peace now… you worked so hard. There was so much to your life. You were a beautiful little girl that lived through wars and economic depressions, sickness, and so many memories with the many relatives you had, though you were the only child. That’s why you said you wanted to make your own huge family with Dad. And you did. Your love with Dad was one of a kind… you were the city mouse and he was the country mouse. So opposite but so in love. I’ve been reading letters you mailed to each other, during and after WW2 and throughout your married life, right up to the one Dad wrote to you on the day he found out his Mesothelioma would soon take his life.
I think of how hard you worked raising 6 children, and caring for so many aged relatives at the same time. So much to say about the life and home you made and maintained for us… all the memories, the birthdays, the holidays, the 8 billion trips up and down all the stairs in our house, the frozen fingers you’d get hanging all our wash out every day, never missing a home cooked meal.
But there was much more to you even before all that. You were a sought after secretary to radio show producers in the Chrysler building in NY. You worked in Sperrys towards the war effort. You were engaged to a man that died on the ship, the Indianapolis… it’s in the history books.
You were so beautiful inside and out. There are so many things that could have been said at your eulogy but they were not, and that will forever break my heart, but I guess everyone is in a different spot in grief at any one given time and they do what they feel.
So… I would have told your story Mom, I’m telling some of it now.
I remember how soft and silky your hardworking hands felt in mine, even hours after you passed. I never wanted to let go of that hand… just as I know you’ll never let go of mine… or any of your children.
Sleep well, precious girl. You were quite a woman… quite a human being indeed. How I treasure you.
Always~Joanie