Mary Arslanian

mary arslanian

January 10, 1942 ~ April 16, 2024

Born in: Cairo, Egypt
Resided in: Smithtown, New York

Mary (Baghdassarian) Arslanian passed away peacefully in her sleep on April 16, 2024 with her loving children, Arda and John, at her side.

Mary was born in Cairo, Egypt on January 10, 1942. In addition to her children, she is survived by her grandchildren Katie, John and Kevin Costello, her son-in-law Timothy Costello and her brother Ghazar Baghdassarian (and sister-in-law Annie Baghdassarian).

Mary was married to Edward Arslanian for 60 years until Edward passed away almost exactly 2 years ago. They lived in Beirut, Lebanon during the first few years of their marriage and then immigrated to the United States in 1969, settling down on Long Island and becoming proud U.S. citizens.

As an educator, Mary impacted many young people’s lives, whether as a French teacher at William Floyd High School or as an Armenian teacher at St. Sarkis Church. Many of her former students still keep in touch with “Mrs. A” as they affectionately called her.

Mary always went out of her way to help people—she was truly an incredibly generous person even when her health was declining. She received great joy in attending church, playing mahjong with her friends and of course, spending time with her beloved grandchildren who adored their grandmother. Whether participating in the MS Walks in Washington DC, coloring Easter eggs or simply watching a movie together, nothing made Mary happier than to be with them.

She will be missed by all. May God Bless Her Soul.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to St. Sarkis Armenian Apostolic Church, Douglaston, NY


Service: April 19, 2024 10:00 am - 11:00 am

St Sarkis Armenian Apostolic Church of Long Island
38-65 234th Street
Little Neck, NY 11363

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The family greatly appreciates donations made to these charities in Mary Arslanian 's name.

St. Sarkis Armenian Apostolic Church of Long Island

3865 234th St



(718) 224-2275

Memories Timeline


  1. Mary not only introduced her students to a more cosmopolitan view of the world but also her fellow teachers and probably most anyone else who had the pleasure and joy of knowing her. Thanks to Mary I got to meet French students here and assisted in giving them guided tours of New York City. Thru these tours she introduced to what is now my favorite French restaurant in Manhattan(Le Bonne Soupe) on west 55th St. Mary was well appreciated by her professional colleagues and was particularly hospitable in having staff members to her home. Mary was rightly proud of her Armenian heritage and often demonstrated that thru her culinary talents.
    She was a unique individual, teacher, mentor, etc. and will be missed.

  2. candleMrs A. My heart is broken. I always dreamed we would someday see each other again. The stories you have told and the lessons you have given, stay with me even to this day. The world is a lesser place for the loss of you. Every day you displayed a love to teach your students. It showed so much. I will miss you deeply. Thank you.

  3. Mrs. A was my French teacher for 3 years in high school. My favorite memory was going to NYC with Mrs. A and the French club. She told us if we trued escargot we’d get an A in class. I tried it and I tell that story to this day.

  4. Mrs. A was such a wonderful and memorable teacher. I had her for French and French club, it was fun times. She also shared about her life and was very inspiring both through her stories and also her character. We still often speak of our great memories with her over 20 years later! Sending her family love and condolences.

  5. My deepest condolences to John and Arda. Arda, I was the president of French Club and French honor society in the mid-1980s and spent as much time as I could with Mme. Arslanian, memorizing French poetry and talking about the world. She always thought I should become a lawyer and proudly told me about Arda so many times, urging me to also pursue a career in law. I finally did heed her advice, 25 years later, such was her influence on her students, whom she showered with love. The world needs more people like her… Her memory will always be a blessing and I wish dearly I could come pay my respects tomorrow. May God grant her soul rest among the saints.

  6. I am so saddened to hear about the passing of Mrs. Arslanian. I had her as my French teacher in the 1990s but I will never forget what an amazing, sweet, lovely woman she was. She was one of my favorite teachers. Rest in Peace Madame.

  7. I will never forget how wonderful a teacher you were. French class and a couple of trips to the city are my greatest memories of my high school days. I was also fortunate enough to be a chaperone on a trip with my brother’s French class as well.

    You will be missed and may you and your family know how much of a legacy you left behind. ❤️

  8. Mrs. A. An amazing French teacher (class of 1985-William Floyd) I remember after coming back from France as an exchange student for a month. She chastised me that I had learned too much “slang” French. Sending light, love and peace to those she left behind.

  9. I have such fond memories of Madame Arslanian. She was my French teacher and French club advisor in the early 90s. She always made class so much fun and she got along great with my mom at parent conferences. She took us to see Les Miserables on a school trip and it started my love for seeing Broadway shows! Rest peacefully madame 🕊️

  10. Wonderful memories of French Class 1978-1982 and school trips. Oui Oui❤️ An outstanding educator who loved all her William Floyd children. #FloydStrong She was amazing and kept in touch with her students after graduation . She influenced us to be caring and kind. She was one of a kind and will be terribly missed. We are blessed to have had her in our lives. We will always remember Quebec❤️
    Condolences to the Arslanian family 💔

  11. candleIf not for Mme. Arslanian and our William Floyd French Club trip to Quebec, I might never have met the man I eventually married and raised a family with. She truly cared about every one of her students and inspired us to try to do better just to please her. She was a rare and special person whose legacy will live on through the countless lives she touched. Deepest condolences to her beloved family. May she rest in peace.

  12. Rest Peacefully Madame. My favorite memory is when she told us that if we learned “Stand on your Head” in french – she would do it! (and she did!). She loved taking us into NYC to see Les Miserables and we would sit “avec Dieu” (with God).

  13. Ms. Arslanian was an amazing teacher and an amazing woman. I will never forget our trip to France in the Spring of 1986 or how comforting it was to just be around her. Prayers for comfort and peace for the family!

  14. candleI’ve thought about Madame Arslanian often since finishing high school. (2002). Most of my fondest memories include her; I’m so thankful that she was a part of my life. She was definitely a favorite. My condolences for your loss. Rest in peace, Madame.

  15. Firstly, my deepest condolences to Arda and John and their children.

    Madame Arslanian was my French teacher. Although I wasn’t her best student (that would be me older sister!), she always was kind & encouraging to me. She not only taught the French language, but also taught us about the culture & about life and how important it is to appreciate culture & history.

    She was, simply put, a remarkable woman. I am grateful to have had the privilege to know her.

    Memory Eternal.

  16. candleAs a past student of Mrs. A, I still talk about my experience in French class(WFHS class of 2002). I loved the class so much that I joined French club as well. I appreciated Mrs. A’s lessons & our field trips. This is how I fell in love with Broadway, specifically our trip to see Les Miserables. I still remember Mrs. A, beautiful accent & kind spirit. I am sad to hear of her passing.
    My Condolences to her family
    Repose En Paix Madame

  17. Mrs. A. What an amazing person. So many wonderful memories. Going to France for the first time with Mrs. A, who also brought her Arda. Having wine and cheese in class. My sister, Susan and I are forever grateful!

  18. Mrs. A was my French teacher at William Floyd and quite literally, my favorite. She helped so many of us see life beyond our small town and inspired us to dream bigger than we knew we could. I have so many wonderful memories of her kindness, sense of humor, and enthusiasm for teaching. Every student should feel as loved as we all did because we had the good fortune to have Mrs. A as our teacher and friend. My deepest condolences to her family.

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