Robert Michael Gray

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Robert M. Gray, Age 53, of Stony Brook, passed away on Thursday, March 11, 2021. He was surrounded by love, with family at his side.

Bobby grew up in Hauppauge. As a young child he played baseball, rode motorbikes and played outside until the streetlights came on. A friend to all the neighborhood kids, and ‘big brother’ to many, Bobby shared his kind nature and sense of humor with all those he met, making lifelong friends along the way.

Bobby loved fishing, crabbing, football games and all sporting events. He always brought friends along to share in the fun he always enjoyed, and often created. His greatest love was for his two children, Bobby and Mara, with whom he had the most fun and whom he put above all else. He was so proud to be their father.

After many years in the construction industry, Bobby started his own company. He was a master of many trades who took pride in his work. His craftsman skills, along with his big heart, made lending a hand easy for Bobby. While his eagerness to help others gave him a sense of accomplishment, he kept it to himself.

Bobby’s indelible sense of humor brought friends and family together, especially over the past several years. Despite the difficulties of that time, his home was always filled with love, laughter and faith. While his family helped to bring him through his illness, ultimately it was Bobby, with his humor, his strength, his optimism and his love that helped his loved ones—a true testament to who he was.

Bobby is survived by his beloved children Robert and Mara, his devoted parents Robert and Patricia, his cherished sisters Jennifer and Kimberly, his brother-in-law Kurt, his nephew Ryan, and his niece Alyssa. He is also survived by a big family of aunts, uncles, cousins, godchildren and dear friends who are family. He is also survived by his sense of humor which lives on in all who knew him.

Visitation Thursday, March 18 from 2pm-4pm and 7pm-9pm at Branch Funeral Home, 190 East Main Street, Smithtown. Funeral Mass Friday, March 19 at 10:30am at Sts. Philip and James Church, 1 Carow Place, St. James. Interment at Pinelawn Memorial Garden & Arboretum, 2030 Wellwood Avenue, Farmingdale.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Weill Cornell Medicine/Dr. Fine Research in memory of Bobby. Gifts can be made online at, or by mail to Tom Nichols, Weill Cornell Medicine, 1300 York Avenue, Box 314, New York 10065

He remains forever in our hearts and we remain forever grateful.


Visitation: March 18, 2021 2:00 pm - 4:00 pm

Branch Funeral Home Smithtown
190 E. Main St.

Second Visitation: March 18, 2021 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm

Branch Funeral Home Smithtown
190 E. Main St.

Mass: March 19, 2021 10:30 am

Sts. Philip & James R. C. Church (St. James)
359 Clinton Ave.
St. James, NY 11780

Inurnment of Cremains:

Pinelawn Memorial Park
2030 Wellwood Avenue

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The family greatly appreciates donations made to these charities in Robert Michael Gray 's name.

Weill Cornell Medicine/Dr. Fine Research

1300 York Avenue, Box 314
New York , NY

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  1. candleBobby and family. So sad to hear of your passing. We had good times when you worked as the carpenter at positive. Rest In Peace my friend and god bless your family.

  2. I always admired what a great Dad Bobby was, and how he really was good with all kids. I commented about this once to him and his reply? ” I love are easy…they keep it real.” He was wonderful to our 3 Boys and was a true friend to Mike and to me.

    RIP Bobby. God Bless you and yours.

  3. So sad to hear of your passing, old buddy. I was thinking about how much fun we had as little kids together. The summer before 7th grade, we hung out almost every day and just laughed and had a great time! RIP. God bless you and your family.

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